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'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThere are very few communities in Austral=
ia that have not suffered loss or injury=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=
=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThis tragedy has touched us all in quite a profound way=2E<S=
PAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI noticed a comment writen by=
 a Daily Telegraph journalist who was at the site soon after the tragedy=2E =
She found herself praying to the =93God she did not believe in=94, as she he=
lped the wounded and assisted in the rescue operations=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-=
spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EIt would seem that prayer is an almost an invo=
luntary response to tragedy=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=
=3EYou might remember that I wrote in this same newsletter on the anniversar=
y of Sept 11 about the Flight 93=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 <=
/SPAN=3EAlmost everyone began to pray as they faced the imminent prospect of=
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-ALIGN: justify'=3EI can remember when I was building an explosives magazine=
 for Boral Quarries at Kiama=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPA=
N=3EWe had to lower a welded steel-sheet box section into a previously const=
ructed concrete block reinforced wall=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=
=A0 </SPAN=3EThe fit was a bit tight and the concrete wall wasn=92t going to=
 go anywhere so I directed the crane to apply pressure with its jib in a dow=
nward motion to force the steel section into the concrete walled enclosure=2E=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI decided the crane needed =
help=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ELessons #1 in buildi=
ng construction =96 Never help a crane!<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0=
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<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI held out the internal wal=
ls of the steel structure with my steel Estwing hammer=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-=
spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThe crane=92s pressure built up as the hydraul=
ic pumps worked overtime, bringing tens of thousands of pounds of downward m=
otion on the steel box section=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </S=
PAN=3ESuddenly there was an enormous bang as the steel section slammed down =
on my hammer=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI quickly pu=
lled my hand away=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI screa=
med out in pain, =93God help me=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </=
SPAN=3EJesus help me=92=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EY=
ou see I thought I had lost my fingers=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=
=A0 </SPAN=3EI am a guitarist=2E I need my fingers=2E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNor=
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=3EThankfully I still had my fingers, but I was minus two fingernails and bl=
ood was pouring everywhere=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3E=
The crane driver went white as he also thought I had lost my fingers in the =
accident=2E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALI=
GN: justify'=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN:=
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'=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0p=
t; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3EWe pray when in the middle of great difficulty and=
 we pray in the crisis of trauma=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 <=
/SPAN=3EWhy not pray before we get to this point=3F<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacer=
un: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EBeing a good father is fraught with difficulties=2E<=
SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EMaking the right decision as=
 a father can be a traumatic experience=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=
=A0 </SPAN=3EWhy not enlist the power of prayer=3F</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal=
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 have included a Dad=92s Prayer section in the newsletter for this reason=2E=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ESometimes we pray, laughing=
 at ourselves and our weaknesses=2E Sometimes we pray through gritted teeth=2E=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ESometimes we pray through t=
he tears=2E The most important thing is to <B style=3D'mso-bidi-font-weight:=
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Lovework</B=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-=
ALIGN: justify'=3EGuess what the lovework is for this week=3F</P=3E<P class=3D=
MsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3EPray!<SPAN st=
yle=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EIt=92s a four letter word, but it=92=
s a good one=2E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT=
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GIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3EYours for acts of kindness</P=3E<P =
class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3EWarwi=
ck Marsh</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN:=
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Times New Roman' size=3D3=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EPS=2E<SPAN style=
=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EPlease email us with your story=2E<SPA=
N style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EIt might inspire others to do t=
he same=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EYou never know, y=
ou might start a revolution of love=2E</FONT=3E </FONT=3E</P=3E</FONT=3E<P a=
lign=3Dcenter=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=
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/FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWarwick Marsh is the foun=
der of the Fatherhood Foundation=2E=A0 Married for 27 years he is the father=
 of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging in age from 21 years to 9=
 years=2E=A0 Warwick is a musician, songwriter, producer and public speaker =
who likes to think he can still laugh at himself=2E</P=3E<P=3E<BR=3E</P=3E</=
FONT=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=3D2=3E<a href=3D'#top'=3E=
Back to top</a=3E</font=3E</div=3E<br=3E<p=3E</p=3E</font=3E</blockquote=3E<=
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rdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3EThe Art of Fathering <BR=3EButterfly Kisses</STRO=
NG=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3Eby Paul Sloan</FONT=
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2=3ERemember when that song first came out =93Butterfly Kisses=94 =96 the on=
e about the father watching his daughter growing up=3F How soon the days, th=
e months, and the years go by=2E My daughter is approaching 10 years old (go=
ing on 19)=2E It seems just like yesterday I was kissing my daughter goodbye=
 on her first day of kindergarten=2E My baby girl is growing up, and I don=92=
t like it! </FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm=
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<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<S=
PAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EOne thing I have noticed =
lately about my little girl is how the attitude is becoming more prominent, =
more courageous, and a little more outspoken=2E My daughter, although only 9=
, has befriended a 14 year old from around the corner=2E They get on famousl=
y, however I am seeing my baby girl taking on the characteristics of a young=
 woman - the talk, the clothes, and the make-up=2E Often we feel prompted to=
 remind this little girl of that funny little thing on a birth certificate c=
alled the date of birth, especially the YEAR!! </FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P cl=
ass=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E</SPAN=3E=
<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<SPAN style=3D'mso-tab-count: 1'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=
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ONT=3E</SPAN=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal styl=
e=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT =
face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWe as parents fully understand the effects of peer=
 pressure, the need for children to be accepted, the trying to impress frien=
ds=2E I know that we all did it as we were growing up, yet were totally obli=
vious to the frustration being felt by our parents=2E It=92s human nature, w=
e all need to fit in, many of us wanting to be the centre of attention=2E I =
believe the =91problem=92 starts, at least for this dad, when the little gir=
l wants to be a woman=2E The transition begins, and this transformation turn=
s the house upside down=2E </FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal styl=
e=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT =
face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=
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ify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EAs I reflect on =
my first meeting with the future in-laws, I understand now why there were st=
alactites hanging from the lounge-room ceiling =96 can=92t blame the father-=
in-law really, I=92ll probably be the same=2E Their baby girl, growing up be=
fore their eyes, suddenly joining the dating game, and then bringing some (n=
ever good enough) boy home, driving the icon of the retro years =96 the Sand=
man Panel Van=85=2E=2EWwwhhhooooaaaaaaaa=2E Look out!! Dad is not liking the=
m curtains in the back, the loud music, the mag wheels, and the fluffy dice =
(just kidding)=2E Maybe I should have borrowed dad=92s Volvo=3F=3F=3F=3F May=
be I should have had a job!!!</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal st=
yle=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FON=
T face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SP=
AN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: ju=
stify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EAnyway, whethe=
r we like it or not, it=92s inevitable =96 our baby=92s growing up=2E I beli=
eve it is even harder for us dads=92 watching our little girls become young =
ladies, knowing what=92s around the corner=2E Maybe I am too watchful over m=
y daughter, more so than my other two boys=2E Perhaps I am a little tough wh=
en it comes to her trying to grow up too quick =96 I am attempting to keep m=
y baby girl just that, my baby=2E Well, a tip for young dads =96 if you have=
 a daughter, you are blessed indeed =96 however, as the years roll on, be pr=
epared for every emotion to be stretched, tried, and tested=2E Just remember=
, it=92s been going on like this for hundreds of years=2E We just need to be=
 wise in the morals we set and the actions we take=2E If we bring our childr=
en up with good standings, they will never depart from that teaching=2E</FON=
T=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-A=
LIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=
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e=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-US=3E<FONT =
face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3ETill next time</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DM=
soNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<SPAN lang=3DE=
N-US=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3EPaul Sloan <SPAN style=3D'mso=
-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0=A0</SPAN=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3D=
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Verdana size=3D2=3EPaul Sloan is an accountant working with Equipglobal=2E=A0=
 He is married with three children aged one, nine and eleven years=2E=A0 Pau=
l is an active surfer who lives on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland=2E=A0 He=
 is a family man who hasn=92t lost his sense of humour=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E=
<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3E</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=
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</font=3E</div=3E<br=3E<p=3E</p=3E</font=3E</blockquote=3E</td=3E</tr=3E<tr=3E=
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zing up their parents=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EIf =
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 the phone, into the bathroom, or out of the house=2E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNor=
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<font face=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img src=3D'http://www=2E=
bosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/client=5Fimages/fathers=5Fissue9 - 28th Oct,=
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Last Sunday, I travelled to Canberra with Warwick Marsh and his son Nathanie=
l, to attend the inaugural Fatherhood Foundation National Council Meeting=2E=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThis was also the National =
Day of Mourning for those killed by the terrorist attack in Bali=2E<SPAN sty=
le=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWe attended a service in Parliament =
House that evening where there was an outpouring of grief for the victims of=
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GIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EOn =
Monday morning we attended a prayer breakfast attended by 35 federal parliam=
entarians and many ambassadors, senior public servants and community leaders=
=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EAmong those who spoke an=
d prayed at this event were the Prime Minister, John Howard, the Deputy Prim=
e Minister, John Anderson, the Treasurer, Peter Costello and the Opposition =
Leader, Simon Crean=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0=
cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0=
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the seminars that followed, foreign dignitaries, who had played a significan=
t role in the life of their nation, gave us a personal account of their stru=
ggles, their sacrifices and their journeys=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNo=
rmal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerda=
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soNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DV=
erdana size=3D2=3ELunch gave us further opportunities for social interaction=
 with some of those who had attended the morning=92s events=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E=
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<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EFor the Fatherhood Foundation team, the most=
 valuable part of the day was our National Council Meeting=2E<SPAN style=3D'=
mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThis meeting included about 3=BD hours of =
discussions with a number of senators and government ministers who participa=
ted=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThese parliamentarian=
s had already received information from Warwick about the purpose of the Fat=
herhood Foundation, the proposal for a fatherhood summit and the high social=
 and economic costs of fatherlessness=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal =
style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E=
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mal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdan=
a size=3D2=3EThe meeting provided us with an opportunity to reinforce the ca=
se for social reform through legislative change=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spaceru=
n: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWe were able to listen to their response, ask questio=
ns, and to further express our views and relate our experiences=2E</FONT=3E<=
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ify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3ETheir knowledge, experience, suggesti=
ons, perspectives and advice will prove helpful in enabling us to develop st=
rategies to achieve reform=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MA=
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Their observations and comments encouraged the Fatherhood Foundation to hold=
 firm to our vision of building in our nation a culture that recognises and =
promotes the value of fathers in the lives of their children=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E=
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<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3ERoland Foster is an non-custodial father, se=
parated since 1997, with 5 young children aged between 6 and 14 years=2E=A0 =
Roland is a passionate father and an active social reformer who believes Aus=
tralia's current laws are contributing to the creation of our fatherless soc=
iety=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div align=3Dright=3E<font size=3D2=3E<a h=
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our Father in heaven has, to look after our children and give them the best =
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Ron Hellyer has been married to Margaret for 23 years and is the<SPAN style=3D=
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</b=3E</font=3E<font face=3D'verdana' size=3D2=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=3E<img src=
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ssue9 - 28th Oct, 2002=5Fparlim=2Ebmp' align=3Dleft=3E</div=3E <P class=3DMs=
oNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVe=
rdana size=3D2=3EOur first Fatherhood Foundation National Council meeting in=
 parliament House, Canberra, had 11 representatives=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spa=
cerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EBarry Leaver, who has a heart for street kids and=
 has fostered hundreds of children, came all the way from Queensland to be w=
ith us=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EEveryone else was =
from NSW and Victoria=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWe =
met with Paul Calvert, President of the Senate (letter enclosed), Ross Camer=
on, Minister assisting Family & Community, Senator Bill Heffernan, Danna Val=
e, Minister for Veteran Affairs, and Larry Anthony, Minister for Children=2E=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EOur proposal for a National=
 Summit on Fathering was well received=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=
=A0 </SPAN=3EPaul Calvert in particular was very encouraging and offered us =
his practical assistance=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3E=
We know many other parliamentarians who are keen to get behind such a summit=
=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThe Fatherhood Foundatio=
n has a wonderful door of opportunity - we just have to come up with the goo=
ds and make the proposed National Summit on Fathering, 2003, happen=2E<SPAN =
style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWe see this as an ongoing nationa=
l event to promote social and political reform=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DM=
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Verdana size=3D2=3EWe welcome our good friend Ron Hellyer who is helping us =
as an assistant editor for the fathersonline=2Eorg newsletter=2E<SPAN style=3D=
'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EHe is a passionate father with a dream to=
 encourage Aussie men to become fathers of excellence=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-s=
pacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ELike us all, he knows what it=92s like to try, =
and what it is like to fail=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=
=3ERon=92s five children are the story of his success=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-s=
pacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ERon and his wife Margaret live in Broken Hill, =
NSW=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ERon is a management c=
onsultant who works for private enterprise and government=2E<SPAN style=3D'm=
so-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EYou will find his feature article both hone=
st and inspirational=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWhy =
not drop him an encouraging email at Ron Hellyer: </FONT=3E<A href=3D'mailto=
:rentacrd@pcpro=2Enet=2Eau'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3Erentacrd@pcpro=
=2Enet=2Eau</FONT=3E</A=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E=
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T face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3EThis week we have included two fairly le=
ngthy letters=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThe first (=
and shortest) is from the President of the Senate, Mr Paul Calvert=2E<SPAN s=
tyle=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWe are thrilled that there is inte=
rest from our politicians on this important issue of fatherlessness in our n=
ation=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</B=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal st=
yle=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<B style=3D'mso-bidi-font=
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T face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3EThe second is a heart wrenching story fr=
om one of our readers=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</B=3E</P=3E<P clas=
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SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EDear Fatherhood Foundation</=
FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: =
justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E</FONT=3E=A0</P=3E<P class=3DMsoN=
ormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerd=
ana size=3D2=3EI write to congratulate you on your achievements with the Fat=
herhood Foundation, and to thank you for sending me the information about th=
e Foundation=92s activities and principles=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNo=
rmal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerda=
na=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DM=
soNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DV=
erdana size=3D2=3EThank you also for your kind words and support for the wor=
k of the Federal parliament=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=
=3ESadly, it is rare that such recognition of parliamentarians is so freely =
given=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI know exactly how =
hard my colleagues work and, as you put it, =91most people in the general pu=
blic do not understand the sacrifice involved=92=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3D=
MsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3D=
Verdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P clas=
s=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT fac=
e=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EI agree with you about the importance of fathers in o=
ur families and indeed throughout Australian society, and hope very much tha=
t Australian fathers can aspire to be =91the best dads in the world=92=2E</F=
ONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: j=
ustify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E=
</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN=
: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EYour strategies to help encoura=
ge and support busy and single dads, such as the weekly inspirational email =
project, are to be commended and I will do my best to publicise these initia=
tives in my home state of Tasmania, where I have had some involvement with m=
en=92s support groups=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN:=
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=A0</P=3E</SPAN=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-AL=
IGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EI have also attached, for yo=
ur information, a copy of an article by Sydney stockbroker and Federal Treas=
urer of the Liberal Party, Mr Malcolm Turnbull, titled =91The Crisis is Fert=
ility, Not Ageing=92 published in the August 2002 edition of the journal <I =
style=3D'mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3EOptions</I=3E=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-s=
pacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EYou may find this article of interest in the li=
ght of the recent <I style=3D'mso-bidi-font-style: normal'=3EIntergeneration=
al Report</I=3E, released by the Treasurer with the 2002 May Federal Budget =
papers=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; T=
EXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EKindest regards,</FONT=
=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: just=
ify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E</FONT=3E=A0</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNorma=
l style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<B style=3D'mso-bidi-=
font-weight: normal'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3EPaul Calvert,=
 President of the Senate<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</B=3E</P=3E<P clas=
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NT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E=A0</P=3E<P =
class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D=
2=3E*<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EDear Fatherhood Founda=
tion</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<FON=
T face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E=
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ONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EI, like I guess, so many others, saw your adve=
rtisement on the television=2E I visited your web site, not out of curiosity=
, but looking to see if others like myself might find some answers or help w=
ith my 'plight'=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm =
0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<=
o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: =
0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EI am div=
orced, though not through my own choosing=2E I read with impassioned interes=
t the article by Roland Foster, who has, I believe, set his sights on one of=
 the largest contributing factors to 'fatherless children'=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E=
<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<F=
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<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EI have been in the unfortunate position of b=
eing married twice=2E After my first marriage produced 3 beautiful children =
and failed, I spent several years searching for the answers=2E In that time,=
 I paid maintenance, and also managed to purchase a home, which I dedicated =
to my children=2E I told them that this house was theirs, and indeed it was=2E=
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NT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EAfter several years, I married again=2E Within =
a short period of time, we had a delightful daughter=2E My wife was sick for=
 a while, and I became both mother and father=2E I fed, bathed, changed, tau=
ght and loved our daughter, for both of us=2E Unfortunately, I was involved =
in a motor vehicle accident, and several months after the birth of our daugh=
ter, I was hospitalised=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGI=
N: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E</FON=
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justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EAfter what seemed a lifetime, but=
 was only a couple of months, I returned home=2E Within a few days my wife l=
eft me, taking our daughter 'shopping'=2E She returned home without my daugh=
ter, having secreted her away=2E She picked up clothes for herself and our d=
aughter, and left=2E I was devastated=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal=
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a size=3D2=3EI hit what was probably the lowest point in my whole life, even=
 actively considering suicide=2E I tried to make contact with any form of he=
lp group, but there weren't any=2E Not one=2E Not even any government social=
 welfare type agency to help me=2E And when I was kicked out of my home, and=
 I was on a disability pension, and nowhere to live, I couldn't even get bon=
d assistance to move into a flat=2E Things were to get much worse=2E After t=
he dust settled, I found that the home that I had purchased and dedicated to=
 my other children, who were now young adults, was to be awarded to my now e=
x-wife for property settlement=2E No consideration for the fact that I had t=
he home before I got together with my ex-wife=2E No consideration for my oth=
er children=2E Just, 'pack your bags and hand over the keys=2E' And worse=2E=
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N: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E</FONT=3E=A0</P=3E<P class=3DM=
soNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DV=
erdana size=3D2=3EI tried to gain contact with my daughter, spending thousan=
ds of dollars on legal fees=2E And for what! My ex-wife refuses to allow me =
to see my daughter, even flaunting a court order I have for telephone contac=
t once a week by either not calling at the appointed time, or failing to cal=
l altogether=2E And a right of recourse=3F Not on your nelly=2E I tried, but=
 was told that there was very little that could be done=2E Consequently, I h=
ave seen my daughter once in two years=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNorma=
l style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana =
size=3D2=3E</FONT=3E=A0</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0=
pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWhat justice=3F I=
 digress=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt=
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/o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm=
 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EI do, however, =
believe there are a number of other things that may play an important role=2E=
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N: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E</FONT=3E=A0</P=3E<P class=3DM=
soNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DV=
erdana size=3D2=3EI see that the role that each parent plays in the growth o=
f his or her children has changed=2E I see that the traditional role of fath=
ers has been undermined by the insistence and growth of independence, both f=
inancial and emotional, a government /publicly funded social support network=
 that says 'if you are not happy and fulfilled, then leave', and a financial=
 network that ensures that mothers are fully supported in their decision to =
leave=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; T=
EXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E=A0</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm=
 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EI feel that it =
is very sad that the words 'until death do us part' really mean, 'until I ge=
t sick of you I'll stay'=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MAR=
GIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E=A0</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=
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2=3EWhat ever happened to putting the effort into a marriage to make it work=
=3F I think that every person contemplating marriage realises that the rest =
of their life, every second of it, will not be milk and honey=2E We all unde=
rstand that as we grow as an individual, our values, attitudes, needs and wa=
nts change=2E When you have made the decision to spend the rest of your life=
 with someone else, you must see that there will be times that you must fors=
ake your own needs or wants for the greater good of that marriage=2E </FONT=3E=
</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify=
'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FON=
T=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: jus=
tify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EA couple of years ago, I heard a son=
g by a Christian musician called Don Francisco=2E He was singing about his m=
arriage and the relationship he had with his wife=2E He began to sing of his=
 love for his wife, and said, 'Love is not a feeling, but an act of will=2E'=
 This statement struck me deeply, and I have taken it into my life and devel=
oped the theme=2E If you consider what you are doing, every minute of the da=
y, you are probably making hundreds, if not thousands of decisions=2E Everyt=
hing from, =91Will I have coffee or tea=3F=92 to =91When was the last time I=
 held my wife/son/daughter=92=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D=
'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E=
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IGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWhen you stop for a minute, =
and consider that love is an act of will, or a decision <EM=3E<U=3Eto</U=3E<=
/EM=3E love someone, how hard is it to become self circumspect and begin mak=
ing decisions purely for yourself=3F Isn't this when the decision <EM=3E<U=3E=
not</U=3E</EM=3E to love your partner has already been made=3F </FONT=3E</P=3E=
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Then, surely, we should tip the scales slightly the other way when making al=
l these decisions, and place our own interests behind those of our partner=2E=
 This will allow us to grow with our partner, and not grow away=2E By making=
 these decisions with scales tipped toward our partner, then as we find that=
 she/he receives and grows with the love that we give, then so do we=2E For =
by meeting the needs of your partner, we too gain in the reflection of the p=
leasure displayed by our partner=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal styl=
e=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D=
2=3E</FONT=3E=A0</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEX=
T-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EAs fathers and men, we n=
eed to ensure that our family=92s needs are met=2E This does not just mean f=
inancially, but most importantly emotionally=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMs=
oNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVe=
rdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3D=
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Verdana size=3D2=3EAnd the best way to do that=3F With Love=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E=
<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<F=
ONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</=
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<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EI believe that a network should be establish=
ed to not only support fathers and fathering, but to help grieving fathers c=
ome to terms with the loss of their families, whether it is through bereavem=
ent or a separation=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: =
0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=
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k you for beginning the long road to the recognition and acceptance by our s=
ociety that fathers are people too and need help in being just that - </FONT=
=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3EFathers</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E=
<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<S=
TRONG=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E</FONT=3E</STRONG=3E<FONT face=3DVer=
dana size=3D2=3E<BR=3EKind Regards, </P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARG=
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